We are just beginning
therapist training in the United States. Generally
the partner of a person who is verbally abusive
will try to get their spouse to come to a couples
counselor for help in waking the person up to the
destructive behavior—to get it to stop! Couples
counseling is not the answer.
Usually couples counselors approach the
relationship problem as a 50/50 thing. This, of
course, reinforces the abuser's behavior. Usually,
the abuse increases and the target feels crazier.
To avoid this, it is sometimes helpful to spend
some time with a therapist and then to invite the
person who indulges in verbal abuse to join in some
counseling with the already aware counselor. It is
also important to know that generally, the target
need validation and emotional support and the
perpetrator benefits from EMDR or other intensive
trauma therapy to recover the lost parts of the
self that are projected into the partner. Any
therapist one goes to should have read all five
books by Patricia Evans.
All this and what to do and how to go about waking
up the person who indulges in verbal abuse are
covered in phone consultations with Patricia Evans.
She can be reached at her office 925 934 5972. In
consultations, nearly a thousand individuals have
received an educational perspective on what is
happening to them and and what is wrong with the
person who abuses. Finding appropriate therapy to
recover from trauma and to stop the abuse is
important. Knowing what to ask for and what to
expect is, too.
Currently, one therapist has received a
certification of training as a "Specialist in
Verbally Abusive Relationships."
SPECIALISTS IN VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS